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Two Things every soul needs

Thom Sequoia: Night of the Eagle Feather - 2010

 

There are two things that every soul truly needs…

Two things every living being should not have to do without.

THE FIRST IS TO BE LOVED.

In a perfect world no child should ever have to be abused. And parents
should simply get over themselves, and spend some quality time with their children. Laugh, play, read, hug, and most of all tell your children you love them. Your love for them is not based on how well they live up to
your expectations. It is your chance to serve another soul. Your chance to love and give of yourself freely. Without a price.

And that includes changing diapers, getting up in the middle of the night. Soothing a crying child. Teaching rules and guidelines with compassion but firmness. Not allowing the so called generation gap to slip between you and your teenager, even if drugs are involved. (But never physical abuse. Cause that’s just you trying to say you’re in control of the world…..and your probably not….at least as far as causality is concerned).

Let me say that again parents (especially parents of teenagers or older children).

Your love for them should not be based on how well they live up to your expectations.

How many adult lives are scarred because of that simple principle not put in play when they themselves were children?

O.K. parents. And now the dreaded fear some of you have embedded into your craniums. How hard is it to say those words…”I love you”. Damn we put a lot of conditionals into that, don’t we? But geese, when you were single, and looking for true love…to be in love….it might have been hard to say at first. But most lovers get used to that and go ahead and take the plunge. But being in love, vs. loving someone, especially your child….it’s a different thing.

Would you who don’t say those words to your children, believe me if I told you that you can change?

Step 1:  Say it right now out loud. to no one in particular. Say it again.

Step 2:  Now practice some more, and get ready, cause your gonna figure out who you love and have not told in awhile. Start with your children, and then just go say something simple like this, ‘Hey, I know I don’t say it much, but I think you are a talented person, and I love you.”

Step 3:  You are not doing this to try and get a response! It’s o.k. to not get one at first.

Step 4:  Now go and do it some more. It doesn’t have to be every day. It doesn’t have to be overbearing. Life is short or long, and sometimes the earth, or causality, or an accident, or a disease, or twin towers falling in an act of terrorism, can simply take us or our loved ones away in a moment of time.

Step 5:  Say it enough (no grudges now), that if you or your child were to pass on from this mortal illusion, that they or you could look back and say “at least I know they knew I loved them!”

And that’s it! Bam! It’s like a get rich quick scheme, only both of you are enriched, and the measure of wealth here is not in little green papers.

Step 6: Oh you thought I was done, eh? Well, no…..now you have to figure out who else in your life you need to tell them you love them. Spouse? Girlfriend/boyfriend? Your parents? Grandparents? Brothers or sisters? Cousins, aunts, or uncles? Friends? How bout just a hug and a kind word to someone in need?

Now don’t go crazy on me here. I’m not advocating becoming an extremist. A needy love crazy. All things with moderation, ya know? But hey, we only live 3 times. So let’s make the best, and express love in proportion, without expectation of return.

I promise you if you do this, right now…..today…..this week…..you will feel pretty good for conquering this mental mountain some of us have let slip in our material pathway.

THE SECOND THING EVERY SOUL NEEDS…

Did you think I’d forgotten?  Well, o.k., the second thing may not really be something every soul needs, but it sure can’t hurt.

And that is a nice massage. Yep, if ja gotz sumun special, with great hands, get em ta give ya a smooth, ache releasing massage! Or maybe just sit in one of those great massage chairs.

Oh, and for you existencial types, ethereal entities, or adamant religiosos, you can just get a metaphorical massage….a soul lift…….a peace palpatation….if you will.

Be good…love ya – Tommy

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A small gesture

So after my last post, I sort of took my own advice.

Now I debated whether to tell this story.  Because, I’m not trying to pat myself on the back. More like I wanted to share the feeling of this. And with Christmas coming and all…..well, you know. Don’t ya?

So I needed to run to the library the other morning in Provo.  I was ten minutes early, before they opened. So I was sitting in my mini van, and an old woman rolled by in a wheel chair, down the access ramp, and into a side concrete area. She pulled out what looked like a morsel to eat. She was dressed in grey, had one missing leg with a false leg instead, was wrapped in older worn coats, had two different shoes on, a few shopping bags hanging from her wheelchair, and well…..you get it, right? She looked homeless.

It was cold out, and I thought to myself, should I just sit here, or maybe go say hello.  I also wanted to give her some money, since she may be in need. I didn’t have any on me, so I ran to an ATM.

When I got back, the Library still wan’t open, and she was still in the same spot. I walked up to her and said hello. We talked for maybe ten minutes. I asked her if she had a home. She said she was working on that, but that the shelter had some new transient housing funding that might be coming through soon. I asked her if I could give her some money, though it wasn’t very much at all. She was very appreciative.

Once when I was young and lived in San Diego with my roomates Craig and Phil, in college days, I took a homeless stranger home for the night to our apartment. That didn’t go over to well. You know, there are safety issues to think about, etc.

I wished I could do more for this woman. What I did was really not much, just a small gesture. But it felt good to just do something, ya know?

So we went into the library together, me walking, and her pushing her own wheelchair wheels. We said goodbye, and went to our seperate tasks.

Now the only reason I brought this up to tell you, is because it gave me a good feeling to do something, anything, even if it was just a small gesture.

My two oldest sons recently helped me get my computer running again, after it crashed 3 weeks ago. that also is a small gesture of their time to help me where I was unable to. I am appreciative of that.

May you find a way to give of yourself in some small way or gesture over the next few weeks before Christmas, when we celebrate Jesus birth along with Santa’s gifting.  It really does feel good.

Chao bello!

O.K., Im back. So come on over…

Thom Sequoia - Summer 2010 - Which the Prince and which the frog?

 

Oh heya!  Just stepped out for a bite to eat, and a quick nap…..3 months ago……since my last little bloggy post, ya know?

What ya been doin since I was gone?  I hope you’ve been breathing in the fresh air and sunshine. Did you go for a walk in the woods? Stop to watch a bird, or a snail, or a tiny insect? Maybe took in a mental picture of a majestic mountain that’s been there for about a million and one years, or stopped to notice the mighty roar of the ocean heaving it’s waves on the beach and rocky crags – in and out go the daily tides, pulled by the lull of a waxing moon.

A speck of a speck on the vast river of time you say? Why I do agree! So stop making excuses and GO DO WHAT YOU’VE BEEN WANTING TO DO, but have only been stopped by your belief in your own limitations. Who says that even exists? Maybe just trying something is succeeding…..you know, the journey is the destination and all that rot! I’ll root for you. And I’ll try and do what only fear has been preventing me from doing. What have we got to lose, anyway?

Let’s go do it baby! and have fun while were at it!

2009 – The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly (or is that the beautifully challenged?)

In some ways 2009 was a great year for me, and other ways it wasn’t quite what I hoped for.

But watch out 2010, cause here I come! So many great projects coming this year, here’s 2009’s best for Thom Sequoia, and 2010’s plan to rule the world…..o.k., maybe just rule the little space here surrounding me….yuk, yuk.

2009 Great Stuff:
*  First and foremost, my wife and 4 sons are healthy with no major ailments, and through the good and the bad we are surviving! Love you Kim, Jordan, Joshua, Riley, and Sully!

*  Though my parents are both passed on, I hope they are smiling on a cushy celestial cloud. And by the way, while your up there, if you happen to run into the Almighty there’s a few things here on planet Earth I sure wish he’d fix, like…..oh, sorry, that’s for a different sort of blog all together!

*  God bless my brother and sisters, Susan, Robert, Kathie, Cheryl – love ya. It was great Read more…

Of Men & Mice

What – pray tell – is the difference between a pet mouse you buy in a pet store, and those little frisky critters that run around your house wild as they come in from the cold of winter to seek shelter?

One, we hold, and pet, and say how cute (some of us do anyway), the other we scream at and throw brooms!

Ah, the onset of winter has brought the wild little critters into my family abode, and alas Kim has me setting traps, because they do carry disease sometimes. So Once again – it’s the demise of the meeses – and probably rightly so.

But isn’t everything pretty much subject to our perspective – our world view? Do we see through a glass darkly? As Pilot famously asked Jesus, “what is truth?”.

so sometimes I think we are magnets to these little mice. They seem to like our family. Doesn’t matter if we move. Year after year. i could even say we are cursed! Why us? I hate killing things, including mice. why can’t we just get a break?

Or maybe that is the point! Who says it’s a curse? Isn’t that just a perspective? What if one of us in my family is really a pied piper? Or a Dr. doolittle? Maybe we send out a subsonic signal that only mice can hear, saying “Warm house. Good food. Apply within.”

When i was little, my mother Barbara always said I should become a vet, because animals were attracted to me, and dogs always seemed to like me – you know, like ones that would bite or bark at others would come up to me and sit in my lap. In fact, it still happens to me now.

Perspective. Probability.

If you could zoom out and see the block, would it show 250 mice in the neighborhood? 1000 mice in the fields? Biliions of mice on the planet? Don’t they all need a place to go?

We are only limited by our ability to see only what we think we see.

Mice, dogs, careers, prejudices, ego, wealth, poverty, religion, politics, conspiracies, kindness, selflessness.